I really wish you all could have known me back when I was an expert on raising children. If only I had written this back then, maybe I could’ve offered some practical tips on how to raise the perfect child. I could’ve told you exactly what to do with that screaming toddler in Walmart or the teenager with the rolling eyes disorder. I could’ve told you just how to take long car trips with kids that never whine, cry or fight with their siblings over whose turn it is to pick the movie. And I knew exactly how to train them to help out around the house, without ever having to remind them to make their beds or put away their clothes.

But, unfortunately, when I gave birth to my first child, it somehow affected that area of my brain that had stored up all those nuggets of wisdom and it all kinda got wiped from the memory bank, leaving me in some of the same predicaments as that frazzled mom at Walmart. And what’s worse, it happened again with the birth of each of my children, so I’m basically at the point where I don’t know squat about raising kids. But I’ve come to realize that that’s right where God wants me to be.

It’s totally true that I’m no expert on raising children. But, it’s also true that I’m the absolute best choice possible to be the mother of my kids. How do I know this? Because the Creator of the universe gave me this job. He knows best and He knows all. And while I may have absolutely no answers in my mind on how to deal with the endless issues that arise in my kids’ lives, I have a direct line to the God who gave them to me and that’s the only thing I need. There are days when I have no idea what to say to correct or help my kids through a specific situation and then I realize it’s almost like I have a built-in earpiece with the right words coming through and telling me what to do. And as long as I’m listening to that, I can know I’m doing the right thing.

I’d love to sit here and tell you that, because I’ve discovered this about myself as a mother, everything in this family is hunky-dory, but there are too many people who could read this that know the truth, so that idea’s shot.

I could post this recent Easter picture of me and my kids and maybe you’d think “How sweet.” And I could leave it at that.

Or, I could tell you the real story behind the pic, which is a pretty good snapshot of our everyday lives…

Number 3 voicing her complaints about who-knows-what…

Number 2 trying to solve the problem…

Number 2 actually putting bunny ears on her mother…

Number 2 trying again with her brother. (Mom starting to get fed up.)…

Number 1 and 2 being, well, teen-agers…

Number 2 still at it…

Number 1 making Mom almost lose it…

Numbers 3 and 4 getting sick of standing still…

And everyone smiling because Mom threatens to take away all the Easter candy if we can’t get one decent picture.

So, yes, we’re way less than perfect. And I’ve made a lot of mistakes. But, I have a message for that mom out there who’s reading this and thinks she can’t do the job anymore.

You can.

Stop comparing yourself to that other mom who seems to have it all together. If you could see all the “out-takes”, you would see that she’s struggling, too. And if you have one of those children that’s just really hard to deal with and you think you’re at the end of your rope, hang on. And remember, there’s no better mother for that child than you. And whether your children came to you through birth or the miracle of adoption, God chose you on purpose. And He will not leave you to figure it all out for yourself. Let Him help you. Contact me to know more about having a relationship with God.

And one more thing:

Happy Mother’s Day

to the

Best Mother in the World

for your child

You!